'SHE' - the half world

‘SHE’ ,  ‘We’ and ‘They’

‘She’  died. I will not call her with any other symbolic name of ‘Damini’ ‘Nirbhaya’ or ‘Amanat’ because for me, ‘She’ is so precious and delicate and pristine that I do not want to give her some name that suggest any religion. ‘She’ represents her entire sisterhood,the half world of this planet and  her brethren.

‘She’ was full of life, even when she was trampled, crushed and treaded brutally, she willed to live. Dear ‘She’, you have ignited a torch in the hearts of ‘We’, the people, galvanized them for action and  made the pepsi versioned youngistan to be the real disciplined youth, who fight for his rights with responsibilities of a true citizen befitting the real 'Gandhian' way, who can opt for violence but do not do so because he is fighting for a victim of a type  of violence, who is not afraid of sec 66 a or section 144, still respect and places his faith in  the law and judiciary and only demands to strengthen the hands of Judiciary. Whose will-power cannot be ever broken with water cannon or tear gas or lathis, who grieves the demise of a constable, and before that tried to revive him when he fall on ground. Dear ‘She’, you also  taught the electronic media, the important lesson of respecting a common men and not to mouth water on sensationalizing  the news for TRP. You have become immortal.

One Indian woman died in foreign land due to complications in pregnancy, immediately the laws were changed, another Indian woman died in homeland after battling for 13 days for life when abused barbarically that led to multi organ failure, our politicos are busy grinding their own axes, bravo.

They are not part of us, I will prefer to call them ‘they’. ‘They’ cannot bring special parliament session, why to work extra time, ‘They’ claimed to have daughters,even telling their numbers ( who never leave without that X, Y or Z security), as if ‘We’ are involved in population census, then ‘They’ call ‘We- the common man’ the maosit, wondering if the new definition of maosit is  – it’s the person who also happens to be that voter who send ‘Them’ to these seats for legislation, but later on dares to question ‘Them’. ‘Their’ kith and kin can call anything to ‘She’, blaming her and asking her to surrender rather than fighting, calling her demonstrating brethren with cheap tart names, ‘They’ are like the feudal lords and royals who refuses to come out of their palaces and mansions to be amongst ‘We- the people’ after election, but definitely do not forget to dine and post the pics that ‘They’ have eaten with a so called particular caste, even highlighting poor fellow’s caste to whole nation prior to elections. But not now  when all ‘We’ wanted was empathy, few answers and action, a diktat to punish those beast. ‘They’ didn’t say a word as if those beast or likes of , were from their clan. And why not, after all we have so many voyeuristic ‘They’ watching x rated stuff in assemblies. Amazed to see that if ‘They’ want a parallel job, ‘They’ all are born actors. Kudos, ‘They’ should try their hands in that, ‘They’ will easily end our draught for Oscars.

All are hopes are now pinned on Judiciary. We have seen the first two pillars of ‘Democracy’ crumbling, we have seen administration and legislation carrying their duties ‘effectively’, now please judiciary, come out for ‘We’ and ‘She’.Can we have tougher and speedier judgement. Can these beasts be kept behind the bars with increased tenure rather than just 7 years. Its less even when ‘She’ is just molested, what about when she is mutilated as well. We have 43.22 Lacs of cases pending in High Courts and 65 K+ cases queued up in Apex Court. Even the so called assured ‘Fast Track Court’ are now snailed with all the piled up cases.

These data are just those where ‘She’ came out to tell what happened to her. There are incidences when ‘She’ is molested by her very own near blood relatives sometimes even juvenile. Please make strong amendments in Juvenile Act that these criminals do not get escape from judicial claws on the basis of birth certificate. ‘She’ was abused by a 16 year old boy as well, one who cant  claim to be ignorant child because at such tender age, he is doing ghastly and heinous acts. He cannot be a juvenile.

 And then we have long list of blame game. I belong to the world of education by profession and recently, in an article read that educators should take responsibility for such anti-social elements. I refuse to be blamed for these beasts. Dronacharya taught both Kauravas and Pandavas under one roof, he is not responsible for the modus operandi of kauravas. The real cause lies that Dhritrashtra was blind, and Gandhari blindfolded herself and both couldn’t see what their blue eyed son was doing. Stop this blame game for heaven sake.

But yes I take responsibility for the weaker ‘She’, and ask all the male counterpart creations that don’t send your daughter to any fancy dance or art and craft class, don’t teach her how to move on tunes, but first how to break those bones that dared to make a move on her.

R.I.P Dear ‘She’, ‘We’ wish we were there to protect you. ‘We’ are sorry….

the blame game

They say we are bestowed with this precious life just once, yet mainly its spent in whining, complaining, blaming other, because we are too coward to admit whatever happening to us is our fault. That what we did can undone only by us, or can be corrected by us.

Once a a friend of mine, who happened to be a tarot card reader, told me, one of his client asked what the outcome will be of her affair which was with a married man, and as usual, she was promised wedding by that guy as soon as divorce will be there. My friend predicted that no such case is happening in fact, the guy is on verge of second time fatherhood. The client defied his prophecy. Later on when the event turn out to be true, the client blasted stating, " we broke up, your prophesy made her pregnant, you made her pregnant... "

Poor rune reader... he was shell shocked, his reading made a woman pregnant.. wow

कृष्ण की गोकुल से विदाई

माता यशोदा के चरण स्पर्श कर रहे कृष्ण के मस्तक पर ममता की ऊष्मा लिये अश्रु अभिषेक कर रहे थे। बाबा नन्द जैसे जड़वत थे। सबको प्रणाम कर बलभद्र एवं कृष्ण रथ की ओर अग्रसर हुए। माता यशोदा  के गौर मुखाकृति को कान्हा के  नीलवर्ण हाथो में समेटकर ऐसे प्रतीति दे रहे थे जैसे सूर्य को नील मेघ ने आच्छादित कर दिया हो  आज कान्हा की प्रिय गौएँ के बड़े बड़े चक्षु भी अश्रु निर्झर प्रवाहित कर रहे थे। रथ के समीप खड़ी राधिका के निकट पहुँचकर चरण यंत्रवत थम गए। गोकुल की वह प्राण प्रिय सखी आज मौन थी। मुरली की मधुर तान सदृश लगने वाली वाणी की स्वामिनी आज चुप थी। किसी देवालय में प्रतिष्ठित देव प्रतिमा सम शांत। हाँ, कुछ रिक्तता थी उस देव प्रतिमा में, इस सांवरे को मोहने वाली निश्छल  मुस्कान आज मुख कमल पर न थी, था तो अश्रुओ का अथांह  सागर, जिसे नयनो के बाँध बड़ी कठिनाई से रोके थे। यमुना की जल तरंग जिस तरह प्लावन में उद्वेलित होती है, वैसे अश्रुओ  को नयन कपाट रोके हुए थे।
अब तक राधा कृष्ण का मौन संवाद शब्द का प्रारूप लेने पर बाध्य हो गया।
"राधिके, मेरी अनुपस्थिति में मैय्या, बाबा एवं नन्द गाँव का ध्यान रखना, होली, गोवर्धन उसी उल्लास एवं हर्ष उत्साह से मनाना। मेरे विछोह में यहाँ किंचित भी उदासी न छाने देना।"

अब तक देव प्रतिमा सी अविचलित खड़ी राधिका अंततः बोल पड़ी " बस करो कान्हा, और कितने दुष्कर कार्य सौंपोगे, तुम्हारे बिना होली क्या, हर दिवस रंगहीन होगा, यमुना की तरंगे रेत में अंकित तुम्हारे पद चिन्हों खोजेंगी, ये पूर्वा मथुरा में तुम्हे छूने के लिए लालायित हो पूरे वेग से उस ओर बहेंगी, तुम्हारी प्रिय पारिजात पुष्प कदाचित इस कुंजवन को सुवासित करना  ही छोड़ दे, अपनी कनिष्क पर जिस गिरिराज को तुमने धारण कर कृतार्थ  किया था, वह भी अपनी गंभीर मुद्रा को त्याग कर रोने के लिए अधीर है, और तुम कहते है सबका ध्यान रखना" इतना कहकर उस अराधिका का कंठ अवरुद्ध हो गया।
 नयनो के कोरों पर उतर आये अश्रू को पुनः चक्षु कपाट में बंद कर स्वयं को संयत कर बोली " जानती हो कान्हा, आज समस्त ब्रह्माण्ड में तुम्हे गोकुल में रोकने का सामर्थ्य मुझ में है, पर तुझमे ही एकाकार हूँ, तेरा ही प्रतिबिम्ब हूँ, गोविन्द गोपाल से युगंधर बनने की तुम्हारी यात्रा में आज तुम्हे न रोकना ही इस यात्रा में मेरा योगदान है। जानती हूँ के अब तेरे दर्शन जीवन की सांध्य वेला में होगा, तब भी तुझे गोकुल के दायित्वों से मुक्त करती हूँ, बस एक बिनती है, वृन्दावन को न भूलना, माता देवकी के स्पर्श  में मैया यशोदा का आँचल और नवनीत याद रखना, पिता वसुदेव की वाणी में बाबा नन्द को यदा कदा स्मरण कर लेना, भविष्य में जिस राज्य सभा में तारक मंडल में सूर्य की भाँती दैदीप्यमान होंगे, उसमे अपने ग्वाल सखा  द्वारा निर्मित खेल प्रांगण की छवि भी देख लेना, अपने रत्न जटित सिंहासन पर विराजमान होकर उस शिला को भी याद कर लेना जिस पर बैठ कर तुमने अपनी मुरली की तान से सबको सम्मोहित किया था। जलधि में जिस अकल्पनीय नगर का निर्माण करोगे, उसमे रहकर गोकुल को न भूलना. अपने भव्य राज प्रासाद में कभी कभी गोकुल की इन गोपिकाओ को भी याद कर लेना"

अपने को पुनः संयत कर वह आगे बोली, ' जाओ कान्हा, एक नवयुग की संरचना कर इस गोकुल और वृन्दावन को अमरत्व प्रदान करो, हां एक विनती और है, जब अपने समस्त  दायित्वो से मुक्त हो जाओ तब अपनी वृद्धा हो चुकी इस सखी से मिलने आ अवश्य जाना. तब तक यह मुरली हमें सौंप दो, ताकि गोकुल वासी तुम्हारी इस धरोहर को स्पर्श कर धन्य हो सके।"

कृष्ण जानते थे राधिके ने मुरली क्यों माँगी. मुरली उनके गोप जीवन का प्रतीक थी और यही ग्वाल जीवन मांग राधा ने उन्हें गोपालक से क्षत्रिय धर्मं केपथ  लिए मुक्त कर दिया। राधा जानती थी की भविष्य में उसके श्याम सांवरे को  इन्ही हाथो में सुदर्शन धारण करना है, तब दिव्य सुदर्शन की तीक्ष्णता और कोमल मुरली को लेकर कान्हा कभी असमंजन में न रहे, और मुरली की सुरीली तान सुदर्शन के प्रक्षेपण के समय उसकी कठोर गर्जना में दब कर न रह जाए, इसलिए प्रेम योग के इस अस्त्र को राधिका ने अपने संरक्षण में ले लिया।

कृष्ण बोले, " राधे! आज वृन्दावन का ये माखन चोर तेरा ऋणी हुआ, कितने द्वंद्व से आज तुने मुझे उबार लिया। भविष्य में एक महायुद्ध में एक  महानायक का मै सारथी बनूँगा, किन्तु गोप जीवन के खेल प्रांगन से  जीवन के समारांगन  में मेरा सारथ्य कर्म तुने किया है, कृष्ण को यहाँ से देह रूप में ही जा रहा है, वस्तुतः वह तो यहाँ के हर रज कण में, हर पत्तो  और उनमें बह रही पूर्व में रहेगा। विरह की जो तपस्या मेरी भोली सखी तू करेगी, विश्व के समस्त ऋषि मुनि की तपस्या भी उसके आगे हीन और तुच्छ  होगी, "

"  कृष्ण मथुरा के पास होकर भी मथुरा का नहीं होगा परन्तु वृन्दावन में न होकर भी सर्वदा यही रहेगा। ब्रिज में मेरे हर कर्त्तव्य  को परिपूर्ण करना, मेरे माता पिता का ध्यान रखना, उनकी सेवा करना, मेरे सखा और गौओ का भी ध्यान रखना।"

निश्चिन्त रहो कान्हा, वचन देती हूँ तुम्हे" प्रतुत्तर में इतना ही कह पायी वो अराधिका।

कृष्ण एक दीर्घ दृष्टि में हमेशा के लिए अपनी सखी की छवि को अंकित कर रथारूढ़ हुए, अश्व संकेत पाकर अपने गंतव्य को दौड़ पड़े, ओझल होते गोकुल से सिर्फ एक छवि दृष्टिगत थी, राधा की।

THe Abode of God

The advent of Kaliyuga ( the era as per to hinduism when sin prevails, virtues take a set back) came and all the devas and angels were devastated. They said "Parampita (Supreme father) Brahma created universe and granted the boon to mankind that whenever they have some wish, go to the temple or any place of worship where me and Shiva and Vishnu ( Brahma is Generator, Vishnu is Operator and Shiva is Destroyer as per to Hindu texts)  are there along with their consorts  and ask for it. You will be blessed with your wish" , so far human race was satisfied and ask for spiritual growth, but now they are turning materialist, asking for gold, palaces, high social standing. We are fed up of fulfilling these wishes. They went to Brahma and ask Him to take back the boon, to which heavenly father replied " I can't take back what i gave, but can alter my words. I made those deities reside in temple who were fulfilling the prayers, now i will change the abode where human will not search for them. He made all the deities switch their home into hearts of human. Man will be busy searching him everywhere but the last place he will ever search will be into his heart, where God  will be found.

From then on, human seek Almighty everywhere, but never in him, in his heart.

Law of Free Will

See the pictures below

No prize for guessing the most beautiful of the two, but tell me what is the corelation of these pictures and our thoughts, both positive and negative.

Our positive thoughts are just like the first pic, we need to plant them with our efforts, condition them with continuous care and nurture them. However negative thoughts are just like the unwanted weeds that are never welcome, but they crop up without any aid, however you need to uproot them regularly with your efforts. Thats the difference, positive thoughts require actions to plant them in mind and negative require those actions to weed them out of our mind.

Medicine and Thoughts – the feel good and ‘placebo effect’

Clinically its proven that that our thoughts and emotions directly affect the state of our physical health. This is Mind-Body connection is because of special chemical messengers, called neuropeptides, which help our body's organs communicate directly with the brain, and brain with the organs.

As soon as we think something, our brain releases neurotransmitters and hormones, which trigger physical responses and reactions in our body. If we are stuck up in some stressful situation and turn pessimist then our heart starts racing and our body secretes two powerful stress hormones, Cortisol and
Norepinephrine ( also known as adrenaline or fight or flight hormone). These are  produced when something is or seems to be threatening,however its gushing sometimes halter the ageing process, but its continous 
level rise results in high blood pressure, fat storage  and other chronic disease. And the cell repairing hormones DHEA, serotonin, endorphins is not been able to produce by  glands when they are busy releasing cortisol.

The cosmic connection of Karma and Zen with well being.

Life is a continuous quest for understanding the greater meaning of existance.

Nourish not only the outer temple( body) but also the inner idol (soul)

A spiritual leader said  that your anger is like a high nosed prince who comes only on airways. When ever you are angry then watch your breathing pattern, it will be fast.

How to control anger through breathing

• Sit down and breath deeply then rhythmatically
• Clear your mind from worries, visualize yourself amidst nature, feel happy, healthy. Fill your heart with love and affection for loved ones and gratitude for this life.
• Smile as if raising your chest with pride and feel as if you are already successful.
• Now slowly let go of your anger.
• If necessary use, music of waterfall or seawaves and can also use bach flower therapy ( use of flower oils and fragrance for uplifting mood).

Leading the life - " Do you have a dream?"

 try to recall your dreams. Not able to get? Then List  things you would do if you have bank balance of your favorite billionaire.

Now try to find out how you can achieve them.

"Nobody else can destroy you except you; nobody else can save you except you"-OSHO

The extra baggage of the journey - factors that are antagonist to our art of living.

Internal Factors - Enemies with in

Indifference ( waiting for some miracle to happen and not taking action to turn your dream into vision through your action)

Indecision -  thief of opportunity

      Worry – turning ourselves into Don Quixotes

      Diffidence – less adaptability to change, the risk rules the mind factor

      Blame game

 

      Procrastination

Ego

Anger

Psychology of deceit –“ No choice with me, I am helpless”  factor

External Factors.

Crab Trap – Its common to find that when crabs are trapped, if one of their peer tries to liberate himself, they shred his limbs. Jealousy of  co-leagues is a major cause of it.

Unshackling the bondage and liberating yourself of these extra baggage

# Develop that Body language

      Imagine yourself to be financially secure and successful

Now describe the way in which you would talk

 you would walk

Now get that style and body language and confidence in your daily life.



# Positive Attitude and Personality

Confidence – Repeat the Mantra when the going gets tough for u, “ I can do it, I will do it, I have to do it” and you will get going.

# Create your unique style statement. Make extra effort to look good.

 Try to be cheerful companion rather than grumpy, grouchy person.

 # Physical fitness – increase intake of alkaline food and reduce acidic food. Try practice of correct deep breathing in fresh air early morning and detoxicate at regular intervals. Drink 8-10 glasses of water everyday. Exercise briskly

# Listen to your intuitive self. Get connected with your Higher Realm.

# Art of Communication –  communication involves not only words but tone and body language as well.

 Sweeten it.

 Get back to basics. Reconnect with old friends, hobbies, do the things that pleases you.

 Take initiatives and risk

 Help someone out, volunteer for Charity organization or do something good.

Pray, it helps.

As  sages of the spiritual and philosophical traditions have prophesized , "Let It Be." We do not hold any power of attorney to judge a person. so let it be. Dont fret and fume over something you dont have control over.  Simplify the life, do not allow the clutter or unwanted baggages of past rule you. Stop clinging to past, let bygones be bygones. 

 Therapeutic Laughter - Laugh at yourself and find humour in the simplest of things. Laughter is a powerful mood elevator.

If you cant avoid it, then enjoy it.

 Get three elements in you – Love or passion, Knowledge and Intellect and you will never be a failure.

 Always remember – Things could be worse, right now they are only bad.

Bridging the past present and future - Self Introspection and Evaluation

 Find out where you find yourself in past say before 3 years, in present and in future say 3 years down the line  for the below mentioned parameters.

 Mental level

 Physical Constitution and level

 Emotional strength level

Spiritual level

 Looks

 Personal relationship level

 Social level and

Standard of living level.

There is a wonderful story that once man asked God that if everything happens as per to HIS desire and HE has written everything then why should one wish for anything, God said with a smile, “ Because may be I have written ‘As you wish’.

So keep bringing positivity in your life.

Job and Personal Interview - Trial by Fire

Interview, this one word has capacity to send the pulse and adrenalin of an audacious person on F1 racing circuit. A complete trial by fire is what in the end requires to come out with the grin of surviving the ordeal. The "first impression is the last impression" do stand on concrete ground in this scenario.
Every HR wishes to get the gem for their organization and this is like a complete marketing where you need to advertise the skills and why you are outstanding and outshining candidate (read gladiator) facing the panelist or interviewers.

The Resume
Ohh! so you want such a man, here I am coming Boss...

1. Understand the job profile and find the key words or expected key task for the job. Make them as they are your Key Result Area flashing in your resume. Since many HR consultants and HR department do not go for manual screening of application, they use the screening software or applicant tracking system that identify the words related to job profile and if they matches maximum time in your resume, expect the call.

Moral - customize your resume as per to job profile.

2. Do not make thesis of your resume. Short sweet crisp is the flavor of all the season. Your "I, Me, Myself" is not of much interest to the HR who is overloaded to read pile of applications like yours.

3. Make your work ex the starry thing in your resume. Enlist achievement extraordinaire. HR people prefer to read the application from bottom to up, make sure it has magnetic pull to keep him glued to it.
Highlight not only academic but extra-curric achievements showing you are an all-rounder leader.

4. Get a short and polite cover letter as well.

5. Get good references, coz they will have your background check. If you are not on honey sweet terms with your immediate boss, enlist your current HR people as reference. All the seekers might come  know is your joining date and designation.

6. Get a good and official email address, do not get some funky address like cool_guy or i.m.so.hot kind of stuff.

D-Day - You have got a call...


Appearance -  "Trust me, I am Sauve, Sombre and dependable"
 Wear the best of your formals for this occasion. Young freshers should  not make blunder of wearing casuals ( it shows your casual approach and no one wants to hire such a person). Check your shoes, get it polished and shining.
Get your hairstyle checked as well, do not make yourself look geek, at the same time avoid looking the funky youth. Women should see their hair do not run riotous. A systematically presented you is what reflects your style of working.

If your are gaining weight, then hit the tread mill soon coz people stereotype the fit people with great personality.


Moral - look good and if possible great, but never a geek or nerd.


The Interview
"how else can I shoot this sitting duck!!!"

Interview is not for the verbal questioning, but trying to read between the lines, trying to find the hidden attributes of your behavior. So let your language speak but at the same time allow your body language to speak volumes.

In the lounge -  Try always to be polite to the front desk office. Do not outrun your patience if you are kept waiting. Coz your interviewer might busy observing you how you take this waiting time. Try if possible to engage with light chit chat with fellow contestants. You never know your interviewer might give you an A+ for social skill while observing you on his CCTV.

Really observe the lounge. Your interviewer might want to test your awareness asking how do you find the interiors of the lounge. Bowled him by genuine appreciation.

Entering the cage
 Get the confident look in your body language. Enter the room with the etiquette befitting a gentleman.
Make a firm yet modest handshake. Follow the mannerism and protocol of giving a handshake. A loose handshake is always noticed, and so is a tightly shake that makes your interviewer seeking medical opinion ( and also visiting his attorney to see if he could sue you, if any damage done)

Facing the Ballistic missiles -  Questions that can sweat you out
Be modest yet sound like a good marketing person selling himself ( proving I am the man or person you are taking so much pain to find, Mr. Interviewer). Summarize your biography in not more than 6-7 lines when ask " so tell me about yourself"

The Nailing Questions :


Do not be tongue tied, at the same time do not be aggressive. Do not ever loose your trusted friends i.e.  your logical mind, your thinking ability, your confidence and calm cool composite exterior as well as interior when fired the "now I will have the mighty to fall" kind of questions. Answer in simple way, do not give answers in haste, do not get excited or anxious.


They have filtered you on the basis of your resume and archetype you on the basis of appearance, now they are trying to throw drilling and grilling situational question at you to find if you are as strong as you appear.

USP -    Show the unique you that stands ahead of crowd.  And for that do not boast but highlight your accolades and strength.


"We didnt advertise for the post of Critique". Never complain about your previous organization when asked why you want to change from current job.

The million dollar question - at the end of interview, often interviewer ask if you want to ask any question, be sure to give a question that could  send them running to find the answers. Analyze the past record of the company, visit the site, figure out the projects of the company, news, information and latest updates of the company. The Question should make them feel as if you really made it your business to know about the company.

Genuinely praise the people and the work culture, but do not turn it into senseless flattery. A real appreciation is easily distinguished from flattery and no one wants sycophants.

Give your best shot and get this feather in your cap.

The flying colors: How to get the best out of Exams

The examination season always brings forth the anxiety, tension, pressure, expectations  and stress as complementary gifts with it. Some of us are able to get flying colors and some of us get the crowned title of flunk. But very few students are aware that the hard work when associated with smart work can only bring surety of success.

So is  "I studied 10-12 hours a day" statement the only recipe of success. No, actually the hours when you are sitting in the examination hall managing time, stress and strategizing and giving the best presentation ( for writing of papers) is the thing that segregate the cream from the rest of the hard and studious types.

THE LEADING C-10 of Examination

CONFIDENCE - the most common tendency observed among students is their getting blank just before entering examination hall. Try to retain the confidence and keep chanting the Mantra of "I CAN DO IT, I WILL DO IT, I HAVE TO DO IT"  and take a deep breath retaining this positivity in you.

COMMAND OVER LANGUAGE - Interpretation of question paper containing high thinking skills need excellent command of language. If you are well versed with the language and verbal  skills, application of logic is the next forte to conquer.

COMMON SENSE - There is no substitute to common sense, not even studying. Examination is not meant for parrot and crammers, its for the human to develop thinking ability. Structured Questions belonging to genre of case studies or the one with situation analysis or logical reasoning, your best helping aid is your common sense.

CONCEPTS COGNIZANCE -  The focal point of all studying is to emphasize on threadline concepts. If you are thorough with concepts, than no need to mug up. All we require is the indepth knowledge of the concepts and you could be another julius caesar declaring VINI VIDI VICI in examination hall.

CALCULATION -  Numerical ability subjects like mathematics, accountancy and other requires speedy calculation.

CLARITY - the lucidity in your answers is required for giving best impression upon the examiner, try to clearly express your viewpoints in attractive style using flow charts, diagrams, graphs. After all even a picture is worth a thousand words.

CALM COOL COMPOSITE MIND -  do not be disturbed by other ruffled feathers. Be calm inwardly and outwardly. Anxiety can have negative impact on your psyche.

 - Be cool, do not loose your temper over trivial things during examination.

 -  Arrange your time and writing materials before hand so that you are having composite and conditioned mindset, ready to tackle all the unseen.

COHERENCE - For writing descriptive answers, its important that your answer be coherent and well connected, this is esp. when you are writing Statement of purpose or essay styled question.

CRITICAL THINKING - Descriptive indicators and Case study approaches require the critical thinking, so be sure to weigh every facet of your answers.

CONSCIENCE - another best friend during this time as well as in life is your conscience. Try to be intuitive and do not give to the temptation of using unfair means.

Some additional tips :
Write the answers as if you are the teacher and the evaluator is the student, demonstrate in that time constraint what ever Gyaan (knowledge) you have attained in that whole time duration of session. Be systematic and creative in answer writing skills. Presentation is a pivotal factor here, a beautiful handwriting, with proper KEYWORDS underlined proper spacing between answers, supporting answers with diagrams, flow charts graphs will win you accolades and marks.

REMEMBER: DO NOT GIVE A TREASURE HUNT OF KEYWORDS TO EXAMINERS IN ANSWERS ELSE HE WILL GIVE YOU A MARKS HUNT.
An examiner always checks the answers with the help of key words, headings, and sub heading, the grammatical syntex is not of that significance for subjects other than language.

Examination are fun to deal with, just try changing your perception. Love it and live it, do not give up, surely it will bring best out of you.

So raise your bar and achieve your very own citius altius and fortius

letter from a husband

Dear wife
It feels as if it was just yesterday when we held hands together with stars in eyes. You moved in my house and created a home, bring laughter and fun and became a reason for me to look forward for the day to end and be at home.

That was before 5 years, a few extra pounds, the kids and when there was less hair fall for me. Things have drastically changed, but is it for good? I know you still wishes to see me as the man in his first crush, I know you expect roses and chocolates, to remember and celebrate all the days whether the day we first met, we first dated, we first engaged and so on....

But darling, please live with this shortcoming of mine, I am sincerely hopeless at it, coz all i remember now is the day when my salary get credited, when i m due to EMIs and all those dry things you accused me of.

You accuses I dont share things with you, but somewhere its deep rooted into my psyche i have to behave like a macho and cannot tell you the worries at my office front, what if it dilutes my image, stupid it is I know. But I dont prefer to make hype of it, which i believe will solve with time, at that time i switch to news, cricket as a mean of diversion.

But you chose that time  to tell me what happened at home, what my brigade of relatives said or didnt say, how am i getting insensitive, how drastically I have changed, how I am no more the man who loved you and so on.

At that time instead of arguing, sorry communication where you speak i listen then you cry and i fled scenerio, I withdraw. I promise sweet heart I will have all right 'discussion' if you will not flung a fault of mine, a crime i committed against you several ages back at me.

You wish me to be the picture perfect son in law or brother in law.

All i ask you is that i m ready to do all my duties as a son in law, if you share my responsibility as a son, if you just can bear my parents and siblings because truth is that you all are my life, and i cannot outcast them because you find them overbearing. I know they too are at fault sometimes, but take them as mere mortals with flaws and virtues at same time. If they are having a darker side, then plz for my sake concentrate at some positive aspect of them ( including mine). Life will be easier, i swear.

You say i should look upon others, but you know, your comparison makes me insecure, and last thing i want to know is that I am not good.

I still misses those early days of our marriage, and i want to say there are still dreams to turn into reality, holiday destination to be explored, life to be lived. We are not yet old.
I still want to be the one man who is you axis of life, who is perfect and you are happy because you have me. I dont want the conversation to begin with how I and my family wronged you, but how i am all right for you.

When i am at low, then be patient with me, dont nag me, give me a space to work out the problem and i promise I will tell you all about it and ask advice as well.

I too am insecured that what if you dont find me good enough, with hair receding, with fats accumulating. At that time tell me I am still handsomest man and then Coerce me to go to gym, take care of my diet, i love when you do it, manipulating me in your own style and i feel i am not manipulated.

Children are important, but show me i am important too, show me you look forward for a time meant for just two of us, show me that our communication means things about you and me, not the neighbors, your family, my family, kids, your friends, our domestic help, their spouse

If i can watch soapy and soppy serial, you too love to see cricket with me.

We men have a big flaw, somewhere a child is always alive in us, who wishes to throw tantrums, being center of attraction, food freaks, love to party and hang out, lazy.
Sometimes i say things to you which i never meant, sometimes I am stubborn, sometimes ( sorry as per to you, most of the times) I forget to say you I am Sorry or that I love you, but its always in my heart.
 I wish to see you taking care of all these traits of mine with patience. But the crux is that I  am a  good guy and believe in why to express everything in words. Besides, words are never mine  strong forte.

I am not that perfect, but I can be one. I promise i will take care of all my responsibilities, just walk with me.

Believe me, dream with me, show me you still adore me, dont give up on me even if you feel i am not reciprocating, i never scored good in language and theory, always practical person getting my magna cum laude and summa cum laude in maths and science.

But that doesnt mean I dont love or appreciate or value you, you are the best thing that happened to me. You say you are happy that I am in your life, but darling I am happy that you are my life.
I fell in love with a sweet innocent girl and she helped me turning into a better person.

I cannot promise you that i will be more frequent with declaration part in words regarding my feelings for you, I am still bad at it, but i promise you that i still and will always love you and be with you. Just share my excitement, my achievements and accolades and since its you who is good at words, dont stop telling me i am so good at whatever i do. It salvage my ego, sorry i prefer to call it my morale.

keep loving me despite of my shortfalls, and i promise that i too will try to iron out all your doubts and worries, but if in not in words, certainly through actions.  Its just that i too fear your rejection

There will be times when  you might feel other things are more important than you, but trust me, they are not.

Dont deter your faith in me, Believe me and keep loving me

yours forever

the man for whom you walked the aisle


( P.S. tissues and roses are kept in second drawer of the side table, along with your favourite chocolates, perfume and a dress to be donned for tonight's movie show, dont ask me whats the special occasion or dont tease your brain for any special day reply, because i dont know, i just felt like so doing it.)


( Posted to give fair hearing to Adam's side of race :), based upon experience of near relations)

A letter from a wife

Dear Room mate

Sometimes I wonder if we are the same couple who vowed 'till death do us apart', wrote the endearing lines sealing with kiss when got engaged, who celebrated one week or one month of marriage anniversary as same frivolousness as if touching the golden line of 50 years. Our world was one and I felt being the axis of it.

But then descended a few years and though we are physically together, but for emotional sphere, it seems an invisible moat is created between us and the drawbridge is pulled.

I married the man I adore, and you know for me its a land between love and worship, I love when you take charge of things, when your protecting instincts are working at adrenaline rush, but once a while, show me you treat me as an equal, that you respect my decisions and choice, find me intelligent enough to seek my advice and good enough to share your worries and problems, that I am dependable. Because when you don't, I feel you dont find me compatible anymore and then i start nagging which frustrate hell out of you and you demand your breathing space.

You hate me if I ask, "Am I putting on?", but I ask because you are my greatest strength and weakness at the same time. I am insecured of loosing your interest, of what if you don't find me attractive any more. I know you believe its too formal for something deep and intimate bond we share, but your occasional " I love you" will smooth away the creases of doubts  I sometimes harbour.

I never want to  have the sole claim over you, and I know that your family, friends are an integral part of you, just like me and kids. I dont expect large overflowing bouquets, but a casual plucking of flower from our garden exclusively for me can still make my heart go for a quick waltz.

It light up my eyes when I see yours turning green with envy, when someone else look at me. I love when you flashes signs of " stay away, she is mine"

Please hubby dear, show me I matter to you, that my voice still sounds music to you, that though your phone and laptop and friends and T.V. is important, but not important than me. That you are happy I happened in your life, that I still am gorgeous and b'ful despite of progressing in age.

I know you accused me that I got changed, that I always busy managing household or taking care of family or solving problems of friends and no longer have time for you, but to confess, I am not a good homemaker, I am overtaxing myself only to please you, you are my world and I am just trying to fit in yours.

This is just to remind you as well that I am a human being too, with feelings, anger, frustrations, desire. Please do not neglect me when I am not at my best, hold me in your arms, let me cry with my head on your chest and your arms encircling me, when I am at all time low.Please try to help me taking care of family, do not shun me when I am bitter.

Can we once a while forget all responsibilities and behave like recently fallen in love, stealing glances in public, a surprise when least expected, the words spoken aloud that mostly left unsaid, a blooming stem on dining table, a light kiss and declaration that I am looking hot when I take extra efforts to look like one ( because thats for you my genius of jerk, not for your friends and certainly not for their wives) and sometimes a public acknowledgement that you are proud of me ( promise, i will take extra care to make you one next time)

Forever yours
the woman you married

P.S. ( there is a trail of sticky notes for you to expedite a treasure hunt, and yeah, when you want, you still kiss like dream, and can give any hollywood hunk, a chase for his money)


[  NOT ON PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, YET TO FIND MY MAN TO WHOM I CAN WRITE (crossing my fingers,  hope I need not) THE LETTER    ; )  ]

So difficult to be simple !!

Its so simple to cry, so simple to laugh, so simple to love, so simple to hug, so simple to say "you mean world to me", so simple to say "I am sorry I hurt you", so simple to help, so simple to say "thank you", so simple to pray, so simple to show respect to elders, so simple to show kindness to poor, so simple to feed a starving child, so simple to say your mother/wife  "the food is so delicious", so simple to donate discarded clothes to the orphans, so simple to make tea for your domestic help suffering from headache, so simple to say sweet words in gentle voice, so simple to be empathetic towards 'children of lesser God', so simple to sit with your grandparents and hear them talking, so simple to be happy, so simple to care and share......

BUT ITS SO DIFFICULT TO BE SIMPLE.... 

Can we change the destiny ?

Wondering if we all are puppets in the hands of the almighty and of the nine planets that rotate and revolve far flung from us somewhere in the solar system, or has the almighty bestowed us with a law of free will. What is prarabdh ( the collected deeds of past lives) and what is purusharth  ( the actions ). Here is what a famous seer  answered.

Most of us are aware of the game of bridge played with pack of cards. We get some cards initially after shuffling. And then as game pursue, we also take help of additional cards, whenever our turn arrives. Either we pick the cards throw away the card we dont want or we let that card go by without any inclusion and exclusion.

But those actions do change the game we playing.

Just like that we are given a certain set of cards in life also. The one on whose reception or non reception is not in our hand. This is prarabdh, past collected karma.  But then life tosses in front of us cards that could be changed by our actions and present karma. And so we can change our destiny by playing with our conscience.

This is life, destiny, the collected deed ( sanchit karma) and our actions. Lord Krishna also said in Bhagwad Gita, that "although He controls the entire Universe, yet He does not interfere; He allowed the people to choose their own actions".

We can change our destiny, our forebearance of fruits of our own deed. By our thoughts, actions and love for the Supreme and His creations. 

Every religeous scripture is based on teaching of three element, HOPE, FAITH AND LOVE.

Let us fill our heart with these and do our deeds.

A Unique Relation

Far at foothills, there was a village. Recently, the people of village were gloomy. The year didnt bring much of the anticipated rainfall. If it do not rain now, there are chances of being draught. The villagers decided to approach the Sufi Saint residing uphills, and ask him to pray for rainfall.


The saint was just done hanging his clothes after washing. Villagers requested for the special prayer. To that he replied, " Oh ! the Allah is keen on playing games with me, he doesnt listen to me, and is always interfering in my work. Useless as it is, i dont think he will hear my plea."  Suddenly the cloud burst and it started raining. Villagers were amazed and about to thank the Saint when he broke out, " See, I told you he is keen on not allowing me to do my task, now he would not allow even my clothes to  DRY !!!!"

paradise lost !!

In John Milton's paradise lost, a key figure was Archangel or St. Raphael, who is also known as healing and matchmaking patron saint, for his help to tobius and sarah. Another patron saint for love and marriage is St. Valentine ( Sorry boss, you never got anything from your martyrdom, however you are one of the most commercialized name, and key addition to balance sheet of all cards, gifts , chocolate manufacturing companies)

You helped people to get a life mate, you staked your life to unite the lovers, you also felt the emotions when you were jailed and a blind daughter of that jailer found comfort in you. Just before you were beheaded you performed the miracle and restored her eyesight even writing her a letter signing as " Your Valentine", the first valentine's day card.

i just pray to you my Lord, my Father in heaven, all those taking refuge of this pious name, the name that was blessed by you, the miracle that was performed because you gave him the ability, that may this name regains its purity, may this name brings the warmth. love and affection into the lives of his believeres, may his spilled blood bring honor and faith into the life. May this feasting day bring the miracles in the form of true love, not some fancy gifts, and certainly not some faked 'valentine' who might not even survive the relation beyond a month.

AMEN

The Journey

Its the journey that makes the destination beautiful. The journey that enables you to meet yourself, the journey that speaks the language of your messenger, your guardian angel, journey that give voice to your hidden fears and urge you to come out of them, journey that helps  in self realizing you, journey that teaches you how to come out stronger, journey that grows you and turn you towards the purpose of your life. Its the colorful journey with every shades of life. So love it and live it.